Privacy
Also known as personal space
The need for a realm of life that is not observed or intruded upon by others. Space for thoughts, feelings and activities that are your own.
When met or unmet
When met
- Space that’s yours alone
- Boundaries respected
- Life not on display
When unmet
- No private space
- Always observed or intruded upon
- Boundaries violated
Feelings
Common expressions
I need privacy Can I have some space? Stop invading my privacy
Strategies
- Creating physical spaces that are private
- Setting boundaries about what you share
- Having time alone that is protected
- Being selective about who has access to what
Recognition questions
- → Do I have space that is truly my own?
- → Are people intruding on my privacy?
- → Can I keep parts of myself private if I choose?
Somatic markers
When met
- Relief at having space to yourself
- Relaxation from not being observed
- Freedom within your own realm
When unmet
- Feeling exposed or invaded
- Claustrophobia from lack of personal space
- Tension from constant observation
Shadow side
- Secrecy that prevents healthy intimacy
- Isolation disguised as privacy
- Using privacy to hide harmful behaviour
Cultural considerations
Privacy expectations vary enormously: individual rooms vs shared spaces, information privacy, physical privacy. Not all cultures expect the same privacy levels.